Real Love…Just is

You ever get so caught up in something that you can’t see the forest from the trees? Well that was me with my false twin-flame.  Yup, I am confessing the prior blog posts I wrote about twin-flames was about my false twin. I just didn’t want to believe it! Blame it on my zodiac sign, stubborn Taurus. Thankfully I finally found my real twin who, by the way, was there all along. SURPRISE! It was him I cried my heart out to when the false twin broke my heart.

My real twin said, “you are destined to be with someone greater.” At the time, I was too caught up in my own melodrama to really let those words sink in. Yet my beloved, my true beloved was ever so skillful,loving and very patient. From time to time he would check in on me and it was like the scene in the movie Somethings Gotta Give where Diane Keaton can’t stop crying after having her heart torn in pieces. She’s pouring out her thoughts on paper and just starts crying. My real twin is a remarkable man. He is many things. Pages upon pages couldn’t hold his story nor do him justice. He’s one of those beautiful people that if you are lucky enough to meet you know you are standing in the presence of greatness.

Of course it is not because he’s in your face but it is because his soul fills up every space he is in. So now where was I? Oh yes…he would from time to time come back and check on me. I would say, “I’m not ready, my heart is broken.” He would say, “well you gotta try something new” with his light up your soul smile. I would just look and take it in and say “nope not ready.” A few months passed by and I noticed I couldn’t stop thinking about him. There was something in his voice that seemed familiar so one night I asked spirit if I should approach him because I liked him a lot. He didn’t know but I did. I would try and play it cool when he called but when we would hang up I would do that teenage girl happy dance and scream into my pillow because he called me. Then I would just daydream about what it would be like if he liked me too.

So, Spirit was like finally! All the signs and signals we have been sending and arranging for her, she’s getting it. They  gave me the go ahead and I sent him a message that read I’m ready for something new. He knew exactly what I meant and took it from there. He’s such a mans man…I swoon. This was vastly different then the false twin. Everything was easy…no push pull, no convincing…we just are. He brings out so many colors in me and when I look back he was always the strong support when Spirit was pushing me onto the world’s stage. We just fit. Finally I understood what Jada Pinket meant when she said to Tupac you give me orgasm without touching me. Just being in this man’s presence is a blissful experience and the foundation is love.

We can talk about anything and our lives mimic each other’s in so many ways. The one thing that stands out the most about this connection is it stands alone. It doesn’t need definition. It just is what it is and it is the most beautiful love I have ever known. Where everyone else took or stole from me, my beloved has helped me face the depths of my soul and has helped me heal. That is the difference between real love and fake love. Fake love takes and real love gives and forgives a multitude of all past sins. To my beloved, Thank You for loving me the way that you do.



How many of us want to admit we are fucked up and damaged? I mean, who walks around with that sign on their back? But guess what, that’s exactly what we need in order to heal. We need to look at our individual areas where we aren’t as pretty as we thought or want others to believe we are. Why? Because of the beauty that comes out of those places:the growth,the tapping into self, the embracing of self, and the freeing of self.

It reveals to us who is in our lives for just us, all of us:the messy,the glory, and the blahs. Recently, I saw a movie with my daughter based on a book. In the movie, one of the characters gave the lead character the gift of her faults. It wasn’t until she was deep in her dark night of the soul that she was able to defeat that darkest part of herself by facing her ugly side which was actually her beauty.
Love isn’t about the flowers, and it’s not about the highs. It’s about who is there when it stinks helping you to get back up and hold that mirror up to you showing you that yup your shit stinks but guess what I’m here because mine does too. May we all will be lucky enough to encounter those that accept us at our worst so we can grow into our best selves.

Twin-Flames: The Purpose of Your Twin

I’m here to give my perspective on “love” and the twin-flame. After much debate and utter inner turmoil through personal experience, I have concluded that the twin-flames have total freedom to be whoever or whatever they want to be to each other. Here freedom exists, there are no restrictions. The mission is the goal. If you do not know what I mean by mission, I am talking about the divine work that must be done by the twins in order to fulfill their divine given purpose for being here. In order to explain things clearly, I will at times use analogy’s or parables.

Having said that, I want to dive in real quick to the wonderful world of twin-flame sex. First, let me say that sex is not taboo. Sex is nothing to be ashamed of when it comes to having it with your twin. I think the chemistry and sex is the carrot dangled in front of us to get us on our way down the path to self. It acts as the vehicle through which comes healing, deep self knowing and acceptance. Twin-flames sex is opening and freeing for both twins. Why? It is the ultimate expression of ones self. We often do things with our twin that we wouldn’t dream of doing elsewhere or with anyone else. Why? It is us in communication with our higher selves. We are connecting to the source through our source. Therefore, we are allowed to get rid of the programming and ego based around sex. We are free to act out things that bring understanding as well as healing and through the act of sex we are able to connect at deep levels not only with our twin but with ourselves. We are able to look at ourselves through another pair of eyes. This does not bring shame or confine our sexual expression but it allows us to completely be ourselves to ourselves. Your twin will know exactly what to do in order to unlock and open parts of you that have always been there but for whatever reason you never dared to explore.

When we first meet our twin it is utter chaos. Why? Most of the time it comes at the craziest time in our lives. We could be in the middle of a karmic or soulmate relationship or just going through a low point in our lives. Most of the time we aren’t looking for our twin and it brings with it all the baggage of self that most be gone through, looked at and dissected in order to emerge as our true selves. Yet with it and under all of that there is total calm.

I hear a lot of twins saying this isn’t like all my other relationships . I don’t feel what I felt for others before I met you. Instead of you using all the relationships prior to meeting your twin-flame to gauge whether or not this is your twin-flame (relationships that were solely built on and in ego), take a second to step back and look at those relationships through the eyes of spirit. Do not compare your twin-flame relationships to those that were forged in ego. There is no comparison. They are from two complete different worlds. One is the world of ego and the other is that of spirit. Twin-flames is about spirit and growing into who you are meant to be. If you choose to accept the twin-flame path. We all have free will and spirit will not force you to participate. It will simply nod its head and leave you right where you are choosing to be. We get mixed up between soul mates and karmics all of which are valid to our human experience and growth but none of those are the ultimate connection to your higher self or self improvement. They are just constructs meant to entrap you not enhance you.

Can Twin-flames be romantic? Sure, of course they can. If each twin fully accepts and does the inner work, they will see there is no better counter part for them because it releases them from all ego while at the same time launching them into their life purpose. This brings about peace and total fulfillment . The bigger picture is that of coming into full alignment with your higher self. It is the type of relationship that should be and is void of ego and purely spiritual. The connection is mind boggling and takes a minute to get use to. It will mirror you where you are and make you deal with your shit in order to take on the mantle and walk in your purpose. Your twin will fit your life purpose in every way because you two are meant to change society’s view on what Love really is and there are many ways to do this. The foundation of love is friendship. It is written that this is the description of love and I think spirit wants us all to put all of our “love” relationships in this and look hard. If it doesn’t fit this then its not love nor of the spirit but it is solely ego that is operating. This is where spirit wants the twin-flames to be and operate from.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails.

Meditate upon those words and know if it doesn’t fit you must acquit and call it what it really is….an Egoship not a twinflame relationship.


* photo credit: An Autum Afternoon by Eddie Claz