Holiday Survival Guide

Spending holidays alone can be really intimidating at first. But with time and organization the holidays can be really special and magical.

I am a divorced mother with one child and every other year we swap holidays. At first, I could not imagine having to spend this time alone. But I have made new traditions for myself that really help take off the edge and make this time super special for me as well as my daughter. Maybe you can use some of these things as well…

Tip 1 : Make the most of your time with your kid. Protect it! Treasure it! Come up with new traditions to do for the two of you.

Tip 2: Create a magical space for yourself. Don’t forget to get yourself small but meaningful presents while you are getting everyone else on the list presents.

Tip 3: Take up a new hobby… something that brings you joy and you can do alone. Things like painting, crafting, dancing etc.

Tip 4: Don’t forget it’s ok to feel things. Set aside time to feel but don’t dwell there.

Tip 5: Get out and create new memories with single friends or if you are brave ENOUGH by yourself.

Tip 6: Do small things for yourself like take a spiritual cleanse bath to help take away the negative emotions
Spiritual Cleanse Bath Recipe:

Warm to hot water for soaking

Epsom Salt

Essential Oil (any scent that bring you comfort and joy)

Flower petals

And the most important candle light

Now block out sometime to just pamper and love on yourself while doing this bath. While in the bath just be grateful for the moment to be alone and gather yourself. Soak for however long you can stand it.

Tip 7: Volunteer. Trust me this is the best thing you can do. Volunteering allows you to not be alone but also give service to others who need the uplifting during this time as well. It is a exchange of energy and it opens space around you for new and wonderful people and things to come in.

Tip 8: Have fun no matter what you do. Don’t be too hard on yourself, give the gift of forgiveness to yourself as well as others and again don’t dwell in the negatives but focus on the positives.

This is a small but hopefully helpful resource from a divorced single mom survivor.

Last but not least …it does get better! I didn’t believe it either a year or two ago but it does. Time heals all wounds and this is an exciting time to rediscover, reconnect and re-evaluate yourself and live your best life! Happy Holidays from Reign Blog

The Call…

My heart is heavy watching this shit in real time. Most don’t even recognize the crime. It’s open hunting season if you are a young black male. They shoot you for no reason if you are staying out of jail. It’s shoot first, ask questions later… shit more people cared about a fucking gator.

The outrage comes from trying to force us to live in a cage, a cage of the mind. But all that does is produce rage or trick us into thinking we are insane. They tell you in 2016 you are free but if you are black it comes with limitations. It’s time for sanctions and reparations! It’s time we take our country back! Yes, everyone knows it was built on the backs of blacks. Our sweat, tears and blood is what made freedom ring. Nothing is new today except the KKK got a new face. When will we wake up and see Master still got our black asses up the creek. Everybody got a slice of the pie except for me. You can’t hold back a man created in the image of G-D, and make him sit in the corner while you pull out your gun. You white washed history but we the people ain’t gonna let you wash our blood away its crying out from the ground everyday it’s time for you to face your crimes. Soon the last shall be first and the judgment will reverse the curse.

Movie Review by special GW (ghost writer)

Hi everybody!

I would like to talk about my thoughts on a new movie and one that’s a ‘tale as old as time.’

The first one, the new movie, is ‘Jurassic World.’ Jurassic World is an epic adventure! It features the original Jurassic Park as a modern day theme park with dinosaurs. Instead of the original John Hammond and gang, now there is Clare and Owen. Clare, Owen and a scientist who decides to make a genetically modified hybrid dinosaur. Of course you know from the beginning that this is going to be an issue because this dinosaur is a hybrid of a frog, vilosorapture, and T-Rex. At the end of the movie the park is destroyed, and the T-Rex and mosasaurs save the day. I’m not saying I don’t like the movie, I’m saying that it’s kind of repeating the original movie if you think about it.

The next movie, the one that is a “tale as old as time,” is also a song to say the least. You guessed it! Beauty and the Beast! Beauty and the Beast is a classic and magical tale about a girl named Belle and a beast who used to be a prince. This beast locks her father up in his castle prison. Belle finds her way to the castle and begs the beast to let her take her father’s place in the castle as a prisoner. At first Belle is frightened of the beast and refuses to come out of her room. She tries to run away, and the beast comes after her to protect her! That’s when she gets to know the beast and that’s when the beast gets to know her. Now, if you’ve seen the movie you know I can’t leave out the talking furniture. The memorable candle sticks, wardrobes, clocks, cups, and teapots give Belle a warm welcome with the song, “Be our guest.” At the end of the film, Belle breaks the spell over the beast and they live happily ever after.

The Unspoken Dream

This is my sister and I’s tribute to the greatest musician to ever live. There are so many things I could share about how this man touched my life and the life of those closest to me but one of the many lessons I learned from him was sometimes talking too much gets in the way of the art and how people experience it.  I will say my beautiful sister helped me write this after we first met him in 1998 in Vegas. We wanted him to know how much he inspired us and show appreciation for his craftsmanship. Enjoy a funny little story using some of his song titles. “True art like true love never dies” – MayReign

The Unspoken Dream

When Doves Cry I think of you standing in the Purple Rain. Your skin is Soft and Wet. I truly Adore 

you, more now than When You Were Mine. I can’t understand Why You Wanna Treat Me so Bad,

especially when I Feel For You and yearn for your Kiss. Right now Nothing Compares To You, you

made me so Delirious with your Blue Light that I Would Die 4 You. You were Insatiable and I was

your Hot Thing not your Nasty Girl. But that was during Courtin’ Time. You decided to Sleep

Around and Get Yo Groove On with Darling Nikki. I thought you said that you didn’t want to be

Somebody’s Somebody. I enjoyed reading The Morning Papers with you after you had been Loved

2 The 9’s. Our Love was The Max not Controversy and I thought I was your Sweet Baby and not

just a Curious Child that went with The Flow. You made me Escape to Erotic City for 17 Days. You

Took me to the Continental in your Little Red Corvette and gave me a coat of Pink Cashmere and a

Raspberry Beret. Then we went Uptown to Alphabet St. and you bought me 3 Chains O’ Gold. After

that you showed me off to your Girls and Boys at the Jam Of The Year in the White Mansion. You

whispered in my ear could you be The Most Beautiful Girl In The World, but before I replied you

said SHHH close your eyes. You took me upstairs and gave me One Kiss At A Time and said I

Wanna Melt With You for 7 days and 7 nights. I said Let’s Go Crazy and do it in Style because The

Love We Make is Gold. The Human Body should be treated like a Soul Sanctuary. The next day you

told me that I had to purify myself in The Holy River. Face Down (just like Elvis). We went to see

the Pope who told us about The Plan of a Saviour that would lead us to the New World of

Emancipation. After we left you said Baby I’m A Star and are you One Of Us. I said no, I don’t like

that Pop Life because there is nothing but Thieves In The Temple that want to take your Diamonds

And Pearls. You said Betcha By Golly Wow look at the time I gotta run. I said Damn U and your

Arrogance. Take Me With You to meet The Beautiful Ones in the Computer Blue. Don’t make me

have Another Lonely Christmas. Would it matter If I Was Your Girlfriend? Because I Wanna Be

Your Lover. You said baby don’t Push just keep Strollin’ , and Don’t Talk 2 Strangers. I said okay

Mr. Happy , I Can’t Make You Love Me and we went our separate ways. Now, I Count The Days

until you’ll be Right Back Here In My Arms. In This Bed I Scream because I can’t stop Dreamin’

About U and every night I check My Computer for your Emale. How Come U Don’t Call Me

Anymore? Sometimes I Hate U because I love U, but I can’t love you because I Hate U. I wonder if

you would treat your Friend, Lover, Sister, Mother/ Wife the way you have treated me, but I guess

that’s what I get for having Sex In The Summer on the “balcony” with you. I guess in the end that

Money Don’t Matter 2 Night and maybe next time I’ll use P Control. See you in the Dawn.

Written by N.S. And A.S. In 1998

STAR Bright

Have you ever known a superstar?

I mean the kind of person that makes everyone stop because they are in awe of them. I’m blessed enough to be the mother of one! The supreme love of my life is my daughter. Being a parent is one of the most serious jobs ever and sometimes we as parents get caught up in everything except the simple joy of the love between a parent and a child. I struggled to get pregnant and had one miscarriage but the child I was blessed with brings me unlimited joy! Sometimes we look for things outside of our family. Things like acceptance, support, encouragement, etc. Then we realize that usually those are the very things only our family can give us unconditionally. My daughter is unwavering in her love, approval and support of me, her mother. She eagerly awaits my new posts and checks daily to make sure I am fulfilling my writing dreams. She is the kind of person that makes dreamers like us believe in miracles, unicorns, fairies and the magic of creating. I am her biggest fan because she is an awesome creator herself. I know one day the world will take in her imagination and beauty as if it is sucking on honey.

This is for you my daughter, my joy! SHINE BRIGHT LIKE THE STAR YOU ARE FOR YOU COME FROM LOVE…

What If???

Recently, due to the major shifts and changes taking place in my life, I began to let that old familiar voice creep back into my head. My old frenemy, What If!

Oh how many halls of doubt and fear what if brings into my mind. Until my reprogrammed renewed mind sets in. Then there it was: What if love… What if success…What if true happiness and meaning.
I think I have said this before but the old me was probably the most scared person ever. She was a person that lived in technicolor what if and watched life pass her by. But when the ground is shook beneath your feet and you have no time to think but just act that is where you begin to build your muscle of trust. Life is a series of choices and once made one most be confident in that choice. But also one must be confident enough to change course and start down a whole new path if that choice does not work out.
Turn that old frenemy into an old friend! What if (something positive)! Insert positive thoughts because we are co-creators of our lives.
What if you are missing out on your biggest adventure YOUR LIFE!!

Triumphant Return…

Hello blog world

Long time, no talk.

Boy oh boy, be careful what you ask the “universe” for. I say that in a tongue and cheek kind of way.

But how many of us, on a daily basis, groan and complain and wish we had a different life?
There is nothing wrong with this because I believe it’s our souls way of saying we can do better. However, when we are pursuing that new and different life we often forget that there will be struggles. One cannot uproot themselves without it. I know when we last met I was going on and on about wanting change and boy did I get it! Lol.

The only thing I wasn’t prepared for was the process of change. I was one of those people that had to have all the answers before I stepped out on “faith”. However, the bible I read says that faith is hope in things not seen. Sometimes while operating in faith one isn’t going to have all the answers but they know they cannot stay stuck in what is. I’m sure some of the feelings I have had and those that have taken the journey with me resembled those of Moses. G-D gave clear and precise instructions to Moses to GO SPEAK TO PHARAOH AND LEAD MY PEOPLE TO FREEDOM. It amazes me how many times G-D will reveal his plan in such few words. We, like Moses, began to challenge G-D on all the unseen things that can, will, or should happen. But is that walking by “faith”?
Remember “faith” is hope in things not seen. Yes, our spirit man seems to get the concept and some of us can be seen at home and in places of worship jumping up and down at the idea. But there is a place called purgatory, the waiting place In-between the seen and the unseen. When G-D tells you to GO, He doesn’t always fill in the gaps. He sees the end from the beginning and He is the alpha and the omega. All we are to do is GO in Faith and trust in the things not seen.

How many of us are in the place between the instruction of the begotten promise?

Well I’m here to tell you there’s something else. It’s called resting on and in His promises. We might not have all the answers or what looks like a well laid out plan but when G-D says GO we have a choice. Either we will walk in faith or we will stay behind and wait for the next instruction that only comes after the first step. I wish I had all the answers and could calm everyone’s fears and minds but we have been called out of Egypt and we are marching into our promise land.

Taking Chances

Recently, I decided to make major changes in my life. Why?

It’s simple. I didn’t like the life I had. I stepped out on faith and decided to take a chance. A chance at believing in me. I started this blog to stretch my writing muscles but I am just amazed at the energy shift that took place in my life with just one positive decision to bank on me. I am an extreme encourager for many in my life almost to a fault. I use to be able to believe in everyone else but me and no longer is that the case. G-d gave me unique gifts that I have just begun to explore and discover. I feel like David standing before the giant with nothing but 5 stones. However, I like David have the Lord on my side and all it takes is one stone to defeat the giant in my life.

How are things going in your world? Are you being called to step out on faith and defeat giants as well?

I hope you are living your best life. If not, I hope you, like me, take a chance and step out on faith. What do you have to lose? Let your haters be your motivators.

Seeing with the Eyes of The Soul

Whew! We made it to the end of this wonderful, magical, and life transforming meditation series. I have really enjoyed doing this daily as a part of my day and I will continue to include these ancient practices into my daily routine.

What is seeing with the eyes of the Soul? I believe it is loving and faith. Sometimes we just have to step out on faith and trust that G-d has our back. No one else can live your life. No one else can write your life’s story. You and only you are in the drivers seat and the directors seat making the choices that sum up your life. I hope I have inspired many of you to try something new and that it was helpful and beneficial to you. I can tell you that my life has been truly transformed. I am no longer settling for the crumbs I can get from others but I am now following the recipe that is uniquely designed for my life.

I will say again when you know who you are, you know your power. I had once given away my most precious gift. I willingly walked blindly along side those who tried to snuff my divine light out because they had little to no light of they’re own. However, when we focus on others that is when our soul eyes close and the ego eyes open. Now that my soul eyes are open and I am seeing the divine light everywhere, it is guiding me to other light holders. I don’t ever want to operate out of my ego again. The ego brings death and destruction but the soul brings light and life. My true self is everything I hold dear. I can’t tell you how wonderful it was to have my mother call me almost in tears because as she put it “everything she had poured into me I am finally bringing forth.”I know how she feels because by changing my life and going after my dreams, I see that spark of light and life in my daughter. We are the examples to the next generation. If we don’t stand up and step out and be the best we can be, how will they? More is observed and learned than is learned from being told. I am a changed woman. No longer afraid to stand up and be counted amount the many numerous women who changed the course of history. I now love myself and am my own best friend. This doesn’t mean that I’m not open to outside relationships but it means I now know my place in those and I can be of greater service because I now know what to say yes to and what to say no to.

I have a gift of a song for you again. It has been an anthem for me and I hope they will be for you as well.

What better way to tell the world. I am G-D’s woman hear me ROAR!!

The Highest Form of Love Is Grace

It’s funny how your soul can be crying out and the noise of this world drowns out its cries. But when you slow down and check in with yourself, you get all its answers and healing takes place. My soul has been crying out to me….get in touch with real love. The love that is unapologetically full force in your face. The type of love that is mind blowing. The type of love that is transformational. I had allowed myself to become cold to love because of things that occurred in my life. Those things came into my life under the guise of love but they didn’t fit the outline of love. I think the best passage on love is found in the Bible.

4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 1st Corinthians 13:4-8
My soul had been crying out and the type of love I was allowing into my life didn’t fit the above. It was everything opposite of the above. It wasn’t until I listened to my soul that I opened my heart and allowed the love listed above to come into my life. I now know I am deserving of that type of love and I will never except anything less! We all are deserving of that type of love. If any of your relationships don’t mirror the above I plead with you to let them go so that one that does can freely come in. What we focus on becomes our reality. I believe this is why the Bible instructs us to think only on good things because it is a spiritual principle that where our heart is that is where our mind is.

So what’s in your heart? Have you checked in with yourself to see what your inner higher self has to say to you? Do you feel detached from others and yourself? If so, give yourself a love spiritual check up. I could go on and on about love but by now you know I love music so I will let this song speak for where I am in my life. I hope you enjoy it.