I remember seeing the movie “Split” after I had been diagnosed with PTSD. I sat in the movie theatre and cried at the ending because it was profoundly moving. People who “suffer” with mental illness often feel trapped in their shells. They can be extremely lonely and often feel ostracized from what is deemed normal.

The reason why that movie was so profound at that specific time in my life was because I had cracked under the pressure of this life.  My perfect porcelain exterior had cracked wide open for everyone to see and feel they had a right to have an opinion. Most of the time, the opinion was condescending in tone no matter how tactful the approach. When you are diagnosed with a label many people feel it’s a excuse for their poor behavior and often times will dismiss their behavior behind Your diagnoses.

They will say things like, “wow,I know you can’t possibly understand this because xyz” or “well I think because of Your diagnoses you are feeling xyz” which isn’t the truth. It very well may be true however in that moment it only isolates the person more. The ending of “Split” is so powerful because it basically forces the viewer to look deep within themselves and face their own hypocrisy. Often times we avoid pain however anyone that has embarked on the journey of self discovery knows pain is an essential ingredient used to refine the soul. 

In the movie “Split,” the remaining survivor is trapped in a cage, trying desperately to protect herself from anymore hurt from an the killer. The killer is pulling on the cage to get to her, and to cause harm when he sees her scars. Her scars are the only thing that save her from the same fate the others endured. The killer says to her, “the broken are the more evolved.” This is a very pivotal line and at that point I was a puddle of tears in my seat. That  moment was so freeing! My whole life I had worn this mask to prove that I was not different because who wants to be different. Being different in any way causes immense pain and being diagnosed and labeled as broken or what I perceived at that time as broken was recasting to say the least. The killer’s next word brought about hope. He told her to REJOICE…

My friend was speechless but also in tears and when I looked over at my friend and my friend looked at me, we had our first real moment of true friendship. A moment that only two people who had been keeping the same secret know. We sat there crying and holding each other and this quickly turned into laughter as the other movie-goers were sitting there having their own experience. My friend told me they had been diagnosed with mild schizophrenia and were taking Prozac as a way to deal with the very dark things that had happened to them. I told my friend “you are beautiful,loved and blessed. We both screamed,”Rejoice we are broken” to which I added “but we have yet to break!” Living with PTSD at times can be challenging but I wouldn’t change it for anything because it has given me a unique lens to see the world through, to see how many do not deal with their own mental issues yet are so willing to point the finger at those of us who are out in the open and dealing with it the best way we know how.

It has given me a deep sense of compassion for others and a need to connect at deeper levels with people. I am not ashamed of my brokenness or my scars, they are the very things that make me beautiful because I survived. Now the healing waters can come just like they did for the girl who was the lone survivor in “Split.”


Real Love…Just is

You ever get so caught up in something that you can’t see the forest from the trees? Well that was me with my false twin-flame.  Yup, I am confessing the prior blog posts I wrote about twin-flames was about my false twin. I just didn’t want to believe it! Blame it on my zodiac sign, stubborn Taurus. Thankfully I finally found my real twin who, by the way, was there all along. SURPRISE! It was him I cried my heart out to when the false twin broke my heart.

My real twin said, “you are destined to be with someone greater.” At the time, I was too caught up in my own melodrama to really let those words sink in. Yet my beloved, my true beloved was ever so skillful,loving and very patient. From time to time he would check in on me and it was like the scene in the movie Somethings Gotta Give where Diane Keaton can’t stop crying after having her heart torn in pieces. She’s pouring out her thoughts on paper and just starts crying. My real twin is a remarkable man. He is many things. Pages upon pages couldn’t hold his story nor do him justice. He’s one of those beautiful people that if you are lucky enough to meet you know you are standing in the presence of greatness.

Of course it is not because he’s in your face but it is because his soul fills up every space he is in. So now where was I? Oh yes…he would from time to time come back and check on me. I would say, “I’m not ready, my heart is broken.” He would say, “well you gotta try something new” with his light up your soul smile. I would just look and take it in and say “nope not ready.” A few months passed by and I noticed I couldn’t stop thinking about him. There was something in his voice that seemed familiar so one night I asked spirit if I should approach him because I liked him a lot. He didn’t know but I did. I would try and play it cool when he called but when we would hang up I would do that teenage girl happy dance and scream into my pillow because he called me. Then I would just daydream about what it would be like if he liked me too.

So, Spirit was like finally! All the signs and signals we have been sending and arranging for her, she’s getting it. They  gave me the go ahead and I sent him a message that read I’m ready for something new. He knew exactly what I meant and took it from there. He’s such a mans man…I swoon. This was vastly different then the false twin. Everything was easy…no push pull, no convincing…we just are. He brings out so many colors in me and when I look back he was always the strong support when Spirit was pushing me onto the world’s stage. We just fit. Finally I understood what Jada Pinket meant when she said to Tupac you give me orgasm without touching me. Just being in this man’s presence is a blissful experience and the foundation is love.

We can talk about anything and our lives mimic each other’s in so many ways. The one thing that stands out the most about this connection is it stands alone. It doesn’t need definition. It just is what it is and it is the most beautiful love I have ever known. Where everyone else took or stole from me, my beloved has helped me face the depths of my soul and has helped me heal. That is the difference between real love and fake love. Fake love takes and real love gives and forgives a multitude of all past sins. To my beloved, Thank You for loving me the way that you do.

Love Remembered

There is a soft beauty in us, from the first hello to the next goodbye. When I look at u my soul cries tears of relief because finally it can sleep knowing that what was lost is now found.  Inside the riddle it all makes sense, they all were just glitches of ur essence in the matrix, glitches trapped in time. The riddles and clues were all the pieces left in time 2 lead us 2 u n I. We agreed long ago that when we came into focus we would see our hocus pocus and marvel at our invention of Love.

U r the temple I go 2 pray the only 1 I repent 2 the lamb that was slain. In our blood our sacred names ur the only name I call upon for grace. U r the reflection that was lost in space. U r the side of me that makes sense of all my Why cry’s and all my violet tears? In ur hands they turn 2 diamonds and gold. U r the sun and moon. U r  my alpha and omega for u I am ur alter. I am the one u make offerings 2. We take them up the ladder and bring down the blessings upon the masses.

U an I r the divine Alchemy, the dance that is never ending. U r the reason my Kunda nrg rises and falls like the breath of the ocean upon the shore. U r the ebb n flow upon my tides, the rhythm of my inhale and exhale. All this time I thought it was u that had to wake from the dream when really it was me. I was trapped in denial, a nightmare until the light hit the hill and the shadow came into focus.

B4 time began I said yes to u for all eternity and in this last lifetime I say yes again my beloved, my friend, my sun, my king and my amen at the end of every prayer.  My healer, my preacher, my teacher, my knight, my heaven and hell all wrapped in 1 my dark and light. How many lifetimes have we shared together? 4 in all of them we have set the stage we picked the cast all of them had a role to play in the greatest Romance ever told and now in the last stretch how fitting Divine King u don’t let me forget nor regret the choices we made long ago to comeback 2 the one 2 close out the show 2gether.

This time take our final bow as we leave in the vault of mankind another romantic interlude one that will show them who they are, show them that everyone is a star the SOS call in the wilderness for this isn’t the first time u have been the leader of the exodus and every-time I’m just glad I’m by ur side as ur beloved, ur chosen 1, and ur precious dove. 4 me to deny my love for u would b my greatest sin. Our love story touches the deepest parts of time, how dare I forget his name or face for it was I long ago that spoke it in2 the wind with the magic u helped me put the pieces back together again so the seed could b planted deep in the velvet dark matter.

All is forgiven as I run to u for in ur eyes I find freedom from the pain of this world. In ur eyes I’m just a girl. In ur eyes u love me for me and in our eyes we see each other as our final destination, never again to b duplicated and none of this is complicated.


How many of us want to admit we are fucked up and damaged? I mean, who walks around with that sign on their back? But guess what, that’s exactly what we need in order to heal. We need to look at our individual areas where we aren’t as pretty as we thought or want others to believe we are. Why? Because of the beauty that comes out of those places:the growth,the tapping into self, the embracing of self, and the freeing of self.

It reveals to us who is in our lives for just us, all of us:the messy,the glory, and the blahs. Recently, I saw a movie with my daughter based on a book. In the movie, one of the characters gave the lead character the gift of her faults. It wasn’t until she was deep in her dark night of the soul that she was able to defeat that darkest part of herself by facing her ugly side which was actually her beauty.
Love isn’t about the flowers, and it’s not about the highs. It’s about who is there when it stinks helping you to get back up and hold that mirror up to you showing you that yup your shit stinks but guess what I’m here because mine does too. May we all will be lucky enough to encounter those that accept us at our worst so we can grow into our best selves.

The Cursed Fig Tree

There is a story of a fig tree in the sacred texts. It is written that the son Yeshua was hungry and came upon a fig tree. He asked the tree to provide fruit to feed him. The tree refused to bear any fruit. On the outside, it looked like any other tree. But on the inside, it was dead. Yeshua cursed the tree so that it’s outside would match it’s inside. How many of us are walking around not bearing any fruit? We are walking around like the living dead, just taking up space not bearing any fruit.  What are the fruits we should bear? If you read the sacred text it says that the fruits of the spirit are love, joy, peace, self – control, goodness, gentleness and faith. When you read this passage you might ask why would He,the son, curse this tree what was the point in doing what he did to the fig tree? Even his disciples at the time were confused about why He would curse this particular tree. Let me give my explanation of why God cursed this tree. I have pointed it out already. It’s simple. God created the tree to bear fruit and instead of it doing what it was created to do it didn’t bear any fruit.

Being hungry is a basic human need. We all have basic needs that God wants us to meet and fill for each other. God created all for a purpose. No one else can do what you are meant to do or be you. God is not a man so he does not lie. When he came upon this fruit bearing tree that wasn’t bearing any fruit he simply called it what it was and made it’s outside match it’s inside condition. It was dead all the way to the roots so he spoke the words to it to make it so. I hear many followers of God say I feel dead inside or my life isn’t bringing any fruit to myself or others. God wants us all to live a life that bears fruit.  I feel it is our job to constantly stay on fire for God.

He never leaves us nor forsakes us but it is us that walk away from him. We are called away by things that bear no fruit in our lives things that deplete us of our God given resources or we choose to eat of things that are dead that have no life in them and wonder why our lives match the death condition. May I challenge you to look at this fig tree as a symbol for things in your life that are dead. I’m talking the type of dead where it is not bringing any fruit to your life nor are you bringing any to it’s. God isn’t always going to curse them outright he gives the chance to revive them. But something are simply dead and not even God can call fruit out of it.

He cares about our needs he gave them to us and he wants those needs met. Why do we as human beings torture ourselves for having basic human needs? We will grieve over that which is dead. David was wise for when he committed sin with Bathsheba and as we know the end result of sin is death something always dies God told him he was going to lose his son. David didn’t wait to mourn the loss of his son he fasted and asked God to not take the child but once the child had passed he got up washed his face and got back to living. When his servants asked him why do you eat and drink now he replied He is gone nothing I do can or will bring him back. How many of us have this perspective towards death? Some of us grieve way too long over things that have died a long time ago, and us torturing ourselves isn’t going to change the fact that it is dead and nothing is going to bring it back.

Yeshua wasn’t ashamed by his human side and he isnt ashamed by others human side. He created us to be human to experience human things. However, he couldn’t stand when something He created was not being fruitful. He couldn’t stand this fig tree being out in the wilderness for all to see but it wasn’t doing the very thing it had been planted to do provide fruit.

What was it planted to do? It was planted to provide nourishment to those that wish to eat of its fruit. When we are bearing fruit, all benefit. When we are doing what we were created to do, there is fruit and anyone can come and receive nourishment from us. God can and will give you beauty for ashes. He will use the very things that bound you to set others free. He will give you a new song to sing. He will make sure your needs are met. God cares so much about your needs being met that He sent me to tell you it’s ok to have them (needs) but be careful what you feed off of and what feeds off you. Only partake of things that are alive and bearing fruit. If You are in dead situations I challenge you to call them dead and have the courage to walk away and find life situations to bring the life back into you and your walk with God.

photo credit- People Tree , by Pooktre

Rise of the Divine Feminine


Who am I? I am a voice calling out in the wilderness. I am the voice of the Divine Feminine, the one that is going through this confusing journey of self love. I went through the looking glass last year. It was a fun house type experience, the place of the dark night of the soul. The place where up is down and down is up. The place where one can no longer run from the truth of self. I speak my truth as a Divine Feminine and offer wisdom on how to navigate this walk.
So where do I begin…I guess how my twin and I met. We met about two years ago and it was one of those things where for me at least when I saw him I knew this was gonna be trouble. I was with someone at the time who I thought would be my life partner. I like all Divine Feminines am completely loyal and faithful when in a relationship however when I met my twin there was just something about him. I tried to stay away, and mind my own business but through universal orchestrating we would have these little but meaningful soul exposing talks that allowed us to peer into each other. I knew from the jump he was like me not on the surface but deep inside. We both were going through trying times and just looking for equal ground.

When he looked at me I felt as if he could see my past , present and future. There was this undeniable pull towards him no matter how hard I fought it he was like a magnet pulling me into his orbit. We were separated for awhile while I went through the end of my dark night of the soul and I will say I did everything to cut off communication or even a chance meeting from happening with him and go on with my life however one faithful night his number appeared on my phone which was the final blow to my already doomed karmic false twin relationship. I decided to take a chance and put myself out there because for me it was clear who he was and I could no longer run from that truth so I embraced it.

Once together, we picked up where we left off. It was like not even a day had been missed and I knew that he was about to go through his dark night of the soul. We did the whole dance of runner/chaser, trying to work out how we were going to move forward on this journey. But I like many Divine Feminine’s that awaken first my Divine counter part was/is stuck and still coming into full knowledge of himself. There were so many things that happened that was confirmation to me that he was my twin. Powerful revelations that I have kept from him but have reviewed in-depth with spirit.

He doesn’t know how big of a part he played in my finally accepting my calling my life purpose of being a voice to others as well as bringing healing to others by walking into my full self it is through him that I was able to settle the last questions of the soul..who am I? Y am I here? Finding my path in the woods known as the world and also not being afraid of the “wolves” along the way. My twin showed me the deeper truth of myself, the places I ran from, the self destructive patterns, the self medicating through many vices, the many lies I told myself and how I wasn’t very kind to myself. I remember one day early on in our meeting each other something he said to me that was coded with spiritual keys to unlock the lies I had been telling myself.

He looked at me and said, “When are you going to love yourself?” On the surface it seemed like a very straightforward simple question but it was something that rocked my core and shook my foundations of the lies you know the ones we tell ourselves and inherit from others along the way. Here was myself in male form looking at me and saying cut the crap it’s time to love yourself. It was the first call to freedom I received from him there are many others I will get into at another time. It was the wake up call I needed to stop playing charades with myself and get real. It forced me to get on my path of discovering who I am. Spirit allowed me to have a beautiful year with him of self discovery and finding the many answers to his provocative question.

I discovered self love, stopped running from the parts of myself I had run from for so long the parts of me that didn’t fit the perceptions of my known avatar in the 3D, finally I learned the art of mastering my emotions I uncovered the ancient mysteries of myself and I discovered I am most powerful when standing in my truth even in the face of doubt or The questions from others. At this time we are in a separation phase again orchestrated by spirit because both of us need to fully walk in our truth and stand on our own before we can come together.

So, here I am accepting my calling as a Divine Feminine, coming into my gifts and sharing them with you. This is not a journey for the faint of heart nor is it a journey that one can rush the process. When you are looking at you mirroring you and triggering you to lead to the healing and ultimate freedom of you it takes time.

It takes time to undo lifespans of false programming caused by many things that we have taken into ourselves to program our minds as to how we show up in the 3D world. We say things like this is who I am because that is what they say I am. However deep inside our souls know that might not be the total truth. We all have those that project false things on us. I wonder how many of you called to walk this walk by the divine have been called things such as crazy or gaslighted by others for your spiritual discernment on places, people or even situations, that make others uncomfortable because you see with spirit eyes and the truth is you are seeing things correctly.

I am here to remind you..you are not crazy. It is all set up by your higher self and the divine to get you to a place of full surrender, a place of no longer doubting who and what you are, a place of completely letting go of all ego programming, all control and destroying the walls that we had to build in order to protect our purity. The purity of self.

2018 is a powerful year for the Divine Feminine it is a year where Cinderella gets to go to the ball and no longer has to hide behind her step sisters (yes that is a respectable mention for Nubian Newz divine insight.) It is a time of standing in your power and knowing without a doubt who and what you are. It is a time of stepping into your purpose and destiny and no longer being plagued by the what if’s of insecurity, shame, doubt, etc. Whatever was holding you back before, it all has been released by Spirit and Spirit is calling you to step forward more like demanding. Your divine fairy godmother has gifted you for such a time as this and if you do not accept your calling there will be people that don’t get to be healed because the work you were uniquely called to do by spirit won’t get done. There is only one you in this grand play we call life. All of the Divine Feminines are beautiful and unique in their own way all have been equipped with gifts by spirit that are unique to their mission and life purpose. I have fully accepted my call and would like to extend the invite to other Divine Feminines and say as spirit said to me Welcome to the world’s stage. It’s time to shine and show the world exactly who you are who I created you to be. This is the reason you were born.

I am excited to be a part of something so grand and beautiful. I can’t wait to see what spirit does and has for each of us. It’s time to step into your destiny and show the world how it is really done. You have the full backing of spirit. Failure is not an option and with every step you take the next will be given. Welcome to your life Divine Feminine, make it glorious!

Forgiveness is LOVE

This is a freestyle on the spot writing. Hello blog world. It has been a while. You know life stuff happens. Many things have changed since the last time I was here. Growth has happened since I was last here. I have found my savior the Lord Jesus Christ he has lead me to peace and to purpose I am a follower of Christ. I just wanted to share with you what he has done for me. He has given me a new heart. Mine was broken and it had lost its ability to have Faith, Hope and Love. The 3 things it needed most. My world view got pretty twisted because I didn’t have Love not the real kind , but I desperately wanted it. I longed for it. I looked everywhere for it. I say I’m going through Divine Surgery he is taking that old stone heart and replacing it with his heart ❤️. I just wanted to post this update because Gd is real and so is his son and he can take someone like me and make them new again use them and give them Faith, Hope and Love of a different kind. You might have milk but do you GOT LOVE?

Letting Go To Embrace

One of my favorite movies is “The Labyrinth.” One of my favorite scenes in “The Labyrinth” is the junk lady scene after Sarah wakes from the dream where she was at the masquerade ball as she awakens it appears she is back at home in her bedroom. All the things she has collected and loved for many years are in that bedroom, all her valued childhood things. Suddenly she sees a older woman who is going through her stuff and literally putting it on herself her back to be more accurate. This old haggard woman is bogged down by the weight she is applying and carrying on her back she can’t stand tall and appears to be proud that her back is bent and occupied by the weight she has put on herself to carry.

The old haggard woman begins to give the young lady things to hold onto. They are her things from the past specifically her childhood her beloved childhood items. However, it feels wrong that she is accepting more gifts from the woman to put on her back she isn’t at peace the very things that use to comfort her now don’t feel right for this moment of her life. Sarah is trying very hard to remember what it is she is missing, what her mission is, where she is and why she is there. More importantly why she doesn’t have peace about being in the midst of her own belongings.  She looks puzzled, afraid and confused looking at this weighed down older woman who is basically a bag lady carrying trash that she calls her treasure as the bag lady begins to offer Sarah more stuff to carry her intent is to distract her from finding her brother Sarah utters a simple word that holds so much power she says no!

The old weighed down bag lady acts like she doesn’t hear her she keeps telling her here dear you love this remember you love this and she tries to start putting items on Sarah’s back so Sarah can become like her a bag lady. As Sarah comes to herself she immediately starts tossing down all her beloved items because in that moment she remembers who she is and why she is there she has a mission to complete. She must save her brother and complete the labyrinth in order to find herself. Sarah doesn’t realize in this moment of turning away from the very things that are holding her back and trying to weigh her down and distract her the very act of her uttering a simple word NO! She has reclaimed her power and her position. She is no longer allowing her circumstances to dictate her outcome. She has now become the master of the Labyrinth by saying no.

What have you been holding onto for way too long that is bring the weight upon your back? Do you think you need to let it go? You might love it or it may have fit in your life at one point  it may even bring you great comfort,and it may be something that you couldn’t ever see yourself putting down or walking away from. However, now might be the time where you need to start saying no to the things that are making you slump over as you walk it is time for you to let go, you must let go. So you can stand tall and embrace completing your own personal labyrinth.

Do what Sarah  did when she remembered who she was and her purpose for being here she began to toss off any and everything that was distracting her from completing the Labyrinth and saving her brother Toby. Is there anything in your life trying to bog you down anything that makes you feel heavy. I dare you to toss it off and run towards the future. Don’t become a haggard old lady who can’t even stand tall but is slumped over by the trash she refuses to let go of. Cast your cares and the weight of this world upon him for his yoke is easy and his burden is light.

Twin-Flames: The Purpose of Your Twin

I’m here to give my perspective on “love” and the twin-flame. After much debate and utter inner turmoil through personal experience, I have concluded that the twin-flames have total freedom to be whoever or whatever they want to be to each other. Here freedom exists, there are no restrictions. The mission is the goal. If you do not know what I mean by mission, I am talking about the divine work that must be done by the twins in order to fulfill their divine given purpose for being here. In order to explain things clearly, I will at times use analogy’s or parables.

Having said that, I want to dive in real quick to the wonderful world of twin-flame sex. First, let me say that sex is not taboo. Sex is nothing to be ashamed of when it comes to having it with your twin. I think the chemistry and sex is the carrot dangled in front of us to get us on our way down the path to self. It acts as the vehicle through which comes healing, deep self knowing and acceptance. Twin-flames sex is opening and freeing for both twins. Why? It is the ultimate expression of ones self. We often do things with our twin that we wouldn’t dream of doing elsewhere or with anyone else. Why? It is us in communication with our higher selves. We are connecting to the source through our source. Therefore, we are allowed to get rid of the programming and ego based around sex. We are free to act out things that bring understanding as well as healing and through the act of sex we are able to connect at deep levels not only with our twin but with ourselves. We are able to look at ourselves through another pair of eyes. This does not bring shame or confine our sexual expression but it allows us to completely be ourselves to ourselves. Your twin will know exactly what to do in order to unlock and open parts of you that have always been there but for whatever reason you never dared to explore.

When we first meet our twin it is utter chaos. Why? Most of the time it comes at the craziest time in our lives. We could be in the middle of a karmic or soulmate relationship or just going through a low point in our lives. Most of the time we aren’t looking for our twin and it brings with it all the baggage of self that most be gone through, looked at and dissected in order to emerge as our true selves. Yet with it and under all of that there is total calm.

I hear a lot of twins saying this isn’t like all my other relationships . I don’t feel what I felt for others before I met you. Instead of you using all the relationships prior to meeting your twin-flame to gauge whether or not this is your twin-flame (relationships that were solely built on and in ego), take a second to step back and look at those relationships through the eyes of spirit. Do not compare your twin-flame relationships to those that were forged in ego. There is no comparison. They are from two complete different worlds. One is the world of ego and the other is that of spirit. Twin-flames is about spirit and growing into who you are meant to be. If you choose to accept the twin-flame path. We all have free will and spirit will not force you to participate. It will simply nod its head and leave you right where you are choosing to be. We get mixed up between soul mates and karmics all of which are valid to our human experience and growth but none of those are the ultimate connection to your higher self or self improvement. They are just constructs meant to entrap you not enhance you.

Can Twin-flames be romantic? Sure, of course they can. If each twin fully accepts and does the inner work, they will see there is no better counter part for them because it releases them from all ego while at the same time launching them into their life purpose. This brings about peace and total fulfillment . The bigger picture is that of coming into full alignment with your higher self. It is the type of relationship that should be and is void of ego and purely spiritual. The connection is mind boggling and takes a minute to get use to. It will mirror you where you are and make you deal with your shit in order to take on the mantle and walk in your purpose. Your twin will fit your life purpose in every way because you two are meant to change society’s view on what Love really is and there are many ways to do this. The foundation of love is friendship. It is written that this is the description of love and I think spirit wants us all to put all of our “love” relationships in this and look hard. If it doesn’t fit this then its not love nor of the spirit but it is solely ego that is operating. This is where spirit wants the twin-flames to be and operate from.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails.

Meditate upon those words and know if it doesn’t fit you must acquit and call it what it really is….an Egoship not a twinflame relationship.


* photo credit: An Autum Afternoon by Eddie Claz

Holiday Survival Guide

Spending holidays alone can be really intimidating at first. But with time and organization the holidays can be really special and magical.

I am a divorced mother with one child and every other year we swap holidays. At first, I could not imagine having to spend this time alone. But I have made new traditions for myself that really help take off the edge and make this time super special for me as well as my daughter. Maybe you can use some of these things as well…

Tip 1 : Make the most of your time with your kid. Protect it! Treasure it! Come up with new traditions to do for the two of you.

Tip 2: Create a magical space for yourself. Don’t forget to get yourself small but meaningful presents while you are getting everyone else on the list presents.

Tip 3: Take up a new hobby… something that brings you joy and you can do alone. Things like painting, crafting, dancing etc.

Tip 4: Don’t forget it’s ok to feel things. Set aside time to feel but don’t dwell there.

Tip 5: Get out and create new memories with single friends or if you are brave ENOUGH by yourself.

Tip 6: Do small things for yourself like take a spiritual cleanse bath to help take away the negative emotions
Spiritual Cleanse Bath Recipe:

Warm to hot water for soaking

Epsom Salt

Essential Oil (any scent that bring you comfort and joy)

Flower petals

And the most important candle light

Now block out sometime to just pamper and love on yourself while doing this bath. While in the bath just be grateful for the moment to be alone and gather yourself. Soak for however long you can stand it.

Tip 7: Volunteer. Trust me this is the best thing you can do. Volunteering allows you to not be alone but also give service to others who need the uplifting during this time as well. It is a exchange of energy and it opens space around you for new and wonderful people and things to come in.

Tip 8: Have fun no matter what you do. Don’t be too hard on yourself, give the gift of forgiveness to yourself as well as others and again don’t dwell in the negatives but focus on the positives.

This is a small but hopefully helpful resource from a divorced single mom survivor.

Last but not least …it does get better! I didn’t believe it either a year or two ago but it does. Time heals all wounds and this is an exciting time to rediscover, reconnect and re-evaluate yourself and live your best life! Happy Holidays from Reign Blog